I work along side many different light workers and healers, and we all have many different talents and backgrounds. And even though we are all on different paths, too, I’ve noticed that there is a common shift that seems to be happening with us; but this shift seems to be happening with people in general as well! What is it?
Most of us have been raised with the idea of putting others before ourselves; to help and give instead of receive. And for a long time now, many people have been struggling with this because something inside of us began to scream for more attention. Me, me, me, me, me! “When is it going to be MY TURN?” Well, I am here to say that after a long internal struggle, most of us are beginning to shift our focus off of helping and giving to others as the main priority and turn it back onto ourselves. Think about this for a minute: If our lives are based on SELF LOVE, and we create our reality based on how we treat ourselves, if we are always giving and putting others first, how are we being loving toward ourselves? Self sacrifice is not required, and in fact, promotes not being balanced! One of the hardest lessens that I have learned in my life is this exact one, “If you put others first, you won’t have anything left to give. BUT IF YOU ALWAYS GIVE TO YOURSELF FIRST, YOU WILL NEVER RUN DRY!”
What a concept! Putting others first is definitely a hard habit to break, because let’s face it…we’ve been trained well! But it really is no wonder that we (especially “light workers and caregivers”) have been unhealthy, unhappy and unfulfilled (not to mention financially dry); because the previous mindset is BASED ON AN IMBALANCE! How could one ever know true fulfillment when balance within oneself is the key?
Does this mean that it is time for you to BECOME SELFISH? Not at all. In fact, being self-loving is very different from being selfish and here is the key: Selfishness is doing whatever you want or need without consideration for how what you do might affect others (and often at someone else’s expense). BEING SELF-LOVING IS PUTTING YOUR NEEDS FIRST, BUT ALWAYS CONSIDERING HOW YOUR ACTIONS MIGHT AFFECT OTHERS COMPASSIONATELY. Compassionate consideration is taking the time to consider different possibilities with the objective of creating minimal negative experiences for others, but not sacrificing what you need ever…and this consideration will naturally change how you approach taking whatever action is required! Think about what this means then because you might have to be more conscious of what you determine are needs as opposed to desires. This means that we need to be careful with the people around us, but WE NO LONGER NEED TO SACRIFICE OURSELVES FOR THE BETTERMENT OF HUMANITY.
Now is the time TO PUT YOURSELF FIRST ON YOUR LIST, TO MAKE YOURSELF A PRIORITY. And you don’t have to feel guilty about doing it either, because think of how much more you will have to give everyone else if you are always taking care of yourself. Do you even know HOW to take care of yourself? This might take some practice, especially for those who have been serving others at length. The time for us to need to go out of our way to help people (either helping them in the way that they ask for it or helping them in the way that we feel they need it) is passing. Also, pulling back out of this dynamic WILL GIVE OTHER PEOPLE MORE OPPORTUNITY TO HELP THEMSELVES BECAUSE THERE WON’T BE AN EAGER HAND HELD OUT READY TO HELP THEM AVOID BECOMING SELF-EMPOWERED…the co-dependency age is dying and with it new life is being born in each of us who is ready to embrace loving ourselves as individuals. And in this individual self-love will come a new epic of being able to love people as ONE from a healthy, balanced and powerful perspective! NOW IS THE TIME TO HONOR THE SELF!
Namaste’
Jennifer Tavana~ Hypnotherapist, Channel, Personal Dev. Instructor
www.jennifer.etherealclearing.com
