Before I dive into how balancing the relationship that we have with our Self effects our fulfillment, I feel compelled to bring up a branch of the topic…PROBLEMS. The reason that this topic is important is because some people may experience problems when trying to work on bringing their life into balance.
Problems are something that we all encounter, and this can happen in any area of our lives. What I am going to purpose here is that problems serve us, because if they didn’t we wouldn’t experience them. First of all, think of how exhilarated you feel when you overcome a problem or challenge, or achieve a goal…would it be too far fetched to think that we might welcome problems in order to feel that sense of accomplishment?
I have to reiterate that we are always experiencing our choices, even those that we do not remember making (the ones that you do not recall would be considered “unconscious” choices). These choices sponsor intentions, beliefs and decisions, and all of them combined form our perceptions. Let me spell this out: your perceptions create your experiences a.k.a. your reality. Perceptions can be very difficult to see because to you, it just IS YOUR REALITY. So if it is difficult to objectively observe specific perceptions, then you can start by looking at choices that are contributing to your perception. But to consciously remember choices can be hard as well, so start by looking at problems that you have and what problems are in a general sense.
Problems are defined as the experience of something that you do not consciously desire. With this definition, it is important to clarify that just because you do not consciously desire an experience (and therefore experience a “problem”) does NOT mean that you are not creating it unconsciously. The human psyche is so vast that to date, we understand a fragment of human potential because we do not fully comprehend the design and function of the mind. Because of this, it is crucial to remember that what you are aware of is literally a fraction of what is going on with you. The unconscious parts of you are as powerful, if not more powerful, than the conscious part of you. Problems exist due to the parts of you that you are not aware of at this moment that is carrying out choices that you do not remember making.
You are probably thinking, “Okay, so what now?” Now you do inventory. Look at what experiences that you are having that are not to your liking and first know that you are creating it somehow. This helps you to not give your power away by engaging in blame. Second, write down a problem that you have. Next, rack your brain and ask yourself, “How could this problem be serving me? What could I possibly be getting (or learning) from this particular problem?”
At first you might struggle with this exercise, but keep at it. For example, if your problem is a health issue, consider that the problem is helping you pay more attention to your body, helping you to slow down or take time off, set boundaries in a relationship (or all relationships). Maybe it is helping you to be grounded or to eat better. Make a list and after everything you write in the “benefits” section ask yourself, “…and?”
This exercise is designed to not only help you accept responsibility for what is going on, but also to help you neutralize the energy behind the experience by moving you from a place of natural resistance to it into acceptance and appreciation of it. If you want to change something, you must first accept what is, and if you can, love it. Loving what we do not desire is hard, unless you can see the good in it. Below is another example.
Problem= lack of money
Helps you appreciate what you have
Motivates you to take action
Helps you make different choices
Helps you to consider your past actions/choices
Shows you where an imbalance lies
Helps you be more compassionate to others who have similar problem
Try to have fun with this exercise so that you can begin to see your problems as a blessing as well as see just how powerful you truly are. And after working with this for a while, you might decide to take it to the next level and start considering what choices you might have made in the past that are being experienced now. Here’s a hint: Most of the choices that we experience the most often and most intensely stem from our childhood and family experiences. If you’d like to know more, you can call me and schedule some time to get your Higher Self’s perspective on what the choice is, when you made, why and who was involved. This is a mind-blowing experience for most people who have done it!
Jennifer Tavana (585)255-6685
Hypnotherapist, Spiritual Channel, Personal Dev. Instructor