On Bridget’s Blog (at etherealclearing.com) God said to get to know her, you can just get to know yourself, she said to look around you because you were showing up everywhere. What exactly did she mean?
Well, we call it the “mirror effect”. The mirror effect is a technique that allows you to realize what exactly your life is showing you about yourself; it shows you both the unconscious and conscious parts of you, and it is literal.
How does it work? Relationships are the easiest way to use the mirror effect because people, under the “we are one” principle, are all subjective aspects of you. So, you can look at any relationship and notice if anything undesirable comes to mind. For example, a family member makes you angry because they are blaming you for something. Blame is an expectation of rejection. What are you blaming yourself for? You can even be more specific and look at what you are being blamed for by the family member. If you are being blamed for, let’s say, not doing enough for the family…then on some unconscious level, you are blaming yourself for not doing enough for yourself.
The mirror effect is always about how you are towards yourself, not how you are towards others, and not how other might see you…just how you are towards yourself. Another example would be experiencing someone as being judgemental…what are you judging yourself for? Specifically, if you are experiencing another as judging people as “controlling”, then you would be judging yourself as controlling.
You can look at circumstances as well, like not having enough money. Ask yourself what part of you feels that you are unworthy of having enough, or maybe look at some beliefs that support the experience of lack. It could look like a “It takes money to make money” belief or even “I should’ve went to college” belief.
The definition of relationships is: Opportunities to connect with subjective parts of yourself.
The definition of circumstance is: The byproduct of an intention; reflecting either love or fear.
It is fascinating to watch relationships transform right before your eyes as you open up to what the other person is showing you. And if you desire a specific kind of romantic relationship, you can use all of your other relationships to help you clear out some of the unconscious manifestations so that you can draw to you a desirable “mirror” within the context of romance! Keep in mind that you will always draw someone who is somehow just like you, so the more aware you are of yourself, the more desirable the relationships will become.
Some of this stuff can be difficult to see at first glance, but be patient with yourself…and if you notice that you are impatient, look at what fear might be behind the impatience. Remember that fear gets more real if ignored or unnoticed. 
Until next time,
Jennifer Tavana
