Manifesting Your Dreams

Let's face it, manifestation is a mystery to most people.  I mean, I understand the concept of the Law of Attraction, and I even have an in-depth understanding (I think) of how our unconscious contributes to what we create and experience.  And I have a huge list of things that I have manifested… Not just randomly, but decided "Yep, I would like this…" and a few weeks, or sometimes months later, viola'!  But then there are other times when I have decided on something and I wait.  And wait.  And in some cases, I am still freaking' waiting!  What the heck went wrong with those ones?

A few weeks before my husband and I got married, we sat down and made some decisions about our future (the immediate and far-off future).  We grabbed a pen and paper and had fun playing with grandiose ideas of what we wanted our lives to look like.  We even wrote down a description of our dream house.  But neither of us liked the idea of having to have a mortgage to live in it…

We wrote down our dream house, and we also wrote down a more immediate (and realistic) place to live for right after the wedding…one that we knew we could afford and would fit our needs for the moment.

The criteria for the immediate house was:  Small enough to clean quickly, woods out the back, a water viewr out the front.  We did not want to be in an apartment, so it needed to be a free standing building.  We wanted to rent, but did not want a lease, so we wrote down "month to month".  We set our price range and put the paper aside.

Then we wrote down the dream house:  At least 5,000 sq. ft., open floor plan, granite countertops, flat screen TV, nice neighbors, finished basement (with an office and a play room for my step-son), a hot-tub off of the master suite's bathroom, 3.5 baths and pretty.  We didn't really specify more than that.

Within a week of our wedding, we signed a contract (with a month-to-month term) on a small cottage that overlooked the bay in Traverse.  There were woods behind the cottage.  It was right at the price range we decided on.  It was a teeny-tiny cottage, but it was cute.  It was perfect for what we needed, but soon it became too small.  We did not specify the size, just "small enough to clean"…and it was.  Maybe it was a little too small.  Yeah, definitely a little too small, LOL.  So we started looking to move…

While looking at our options, we both noticed that we were not excited about them.  We did not like the idea of putting a lot more money out for not much more space.  And most of the houses were kind of run-down.  Then a friend of ours called me up and said, "Hey, I know you two are looking to move…and I've got this big house out here on the peninsula with just me and my son in it.  Would you be interested in moving in with us?" 

Let me paint a picture of her house (that we have been sharing with her):  It has to be no less than 5,000 sq.ft.  It overlooks the bay, and has woods in the back.  There is a flat screen TV in the living room, a finished basement with an office, living area and play room, there's an open floor plan on the main level, granite countertops in the kitchen, 3.5 baths and her master bedroom has a hot-tub in the bathroom!  Holy cow!  And she has wonderful neighbors who have young boys my step-son's age!

Looking back, we can see that where we were not specific, the details filled themselves in.  We hadn't thought that we would meet a new friend who lived in a house we described, and we hadn't considered the financial aspect of living in a house like that…but we knew that we were not in the financial position to purchase that kind of home at the moment.  And it is funny because we didn't have to! 

So here's a few things I've concluded about what works (at least for us).

• Writing out your desires
• Be specific about the details including time-frames
• If you are not sure about "how" you could pull it off, watch your resistance and write down ways that it could happen (besides, the "how" clearly is not your concern at the moment)
• After you get clear on what you desire, set it aside and let the Universe take over.  Revisit it if you want to from time to time, but try not to focus on it because you could create stress around it and by trying to control it, botch it up.
• Make sure what you list does not conflict with other desires you have, so work them together, even with the time-frames

Now my husband and I are looking at what we would like to experience from this point forward.  We will be sitting down this week and making a new list, with details, about our careers and a whole lot more.  Try to have fun with your list and if you are shooting for something that seems unrealistic, make two separate lists that can work together.   Happy creating!